It has been three years since the tragic bombing in Oklahoma City; remembrances of the bombing are sure to rekindle fears and anxiety in young children. It is almost impossible to escape fearful images when children have the pictures portrayed graphically on the TV screens and in the newspapers. It is not uncommon to see pictures of war orphans, starving children, or accident victims during the evening news.

Child care providers and parents should follow a few simple guidelines in helping young children to reduce anxiety and fears.

1. Don't discuss distressing situations in front of the child. Children understand more than we sometimes realize and they can sense anxiety, fear, and distress in the your voice. If the child does sense stress, you can acknowledge your feelings on a level that the child can understand and reassure them that they are safe and have nothing to fear. If you have the need to talk about what is causing you anxiety, choose a time when the children are not present and discuss it with a co-worker or friend.
   
2. If children want to talk about what they have seen on television or heard others discussing, you need to "listen" and "hear" what they are really concerned about. They may not understand what war is or what damage a bomb can cause - they may fear being hurt or being left alone. It is important to listen and respond to their concerns, and not let your own adult worries overshadow what is disturbing the child.
   
3. If a child seems overly anxious, or continues to show signs of distress you may need to pay attention for additional behavioral changes such as:
   • changes in sleep (nightmares) or loss of appetite
     
   • increased aggressive behavior
     
   • lack of concentration
     
   • physical complaints - headaches, stomach aches
     
   • fear of being left alone or clinging behavior
     

If these changes persist, their may be a need for professional intervention. Some children can suffer from post-traumatic stress and may need additional professional help in coping with the anxiety.

In most cases, children can be reassured that they are in a safe, loving, and secure environment and will cope positively with the anxiety. imperative that we provide the support and affection that children need order to cope with many of the disturbing events that occur in the world.

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