Self Improvement/Reflective Activities for the Family Child Care Provider
developed by Pat Steffen, Ph.D., C.F.L.E.,
Extension Family Life Specialist, University of Nebraska
|A. Reflective Exercises
|Jot down the rules you expect children in your care to follow.
|How do you communicate your expectations to them?__________________________________
When was the last time you observed a child being good?_____________________
How did the child respond?_________________________________
When was the last time you observed a child misbehaving?______________________________
What did you do?_______________________________
How did the child respond?___________________________
What was your short term goal?________________________
What was your long term goal?__________________________
Did your action support your short- and/or long-term goal?______________________________
|B. Catching Myself
In thinking about positive behaviors of children this past week, I remember/appreciated it when_______________________(child's name)_____________________(positive behavior).
I did /did not (circle one) compliment him/her for this specific behavior.
An appropriate compliment that was/could have been given is "_____________________(child's name), ________________________ (your feelings and what the child did.)" Remember to use the child's name. Example: "Sharon, I'm glad you are sharing the toys with Brandon this morning. He seems to enjoy playing with you."
During the next week I will watch for and compliment children for their positive behaviors.
C. Reflect back to a time when a child misbehaved.
If you were to analyze the misbehavior from the child's perspective,
the reason(s) for the misbehavior was probably because he or she was:
|____not feeling well
____lacking knowledge or experience
|____upset and felt insecure
D. How many times during the past week/yesterday do you remember using the following positive discipline techniques?____________________________________
Number of times
______ I used a positive statement about what I wanted a child to do rather than telling the child what not to do. Each time I did this I gave the child an opportunity to do the right thing.
______ I gave a child an opportunity to demonstrate that he or she was competent. Each time I did this I helped the child develop self confidence and a sense of responsibility.
______ I said "yes" to a child's request--rather than responding with an automatic "no" or "maybe." Each time I did this I listened and respected the child's thinking.
______ I ignored misbehavior and focused on positive behavior. Each time I did this I kept a positive attitude myself.
______ I gave positive recognition(compliment or praise ) to a child for doing something right.
Each time I did this I helped build the child's self esteem.
_______I let a child experience the consequences of his or her behavior. Each time I did this I let the child take responsibility for personal actions.
______ I used a structured consequence that was related, reasonable, and respectful. Each time I did this I provided positive discipline.
______ I gave child a choice about courses of action rather than dictating or nagging. Each time I did this I gave the child an opportunity to make a wise decision.
______ I remained friendly, calm, and detached when disciplining a child. Each time I did this I focused on the unacceptable deed, not on the worth of the child.
______ I used time-out successfully. Each time I did this I gave the child/children a chance to feel better about self, cool down, avoid combat; think about actions, choices, and consequences.
______ I modeled an appropriate behavior. Each time I did this I taught by example.
______ I was consistent in disciplining from one situation to the next. Each time I did this I showed that children can expect to be treated fairly.
______ I sent messages in which my non-verbal and verbal messages were consistent. Each time I did this I sent a message that children could understand.
______ I listened and responded respectfully to a child in my care. Each time I did this I helped the child respect and value his or her thought.
______ I provided encouragement for a child to do something he or she had not done before. Each time I did this I helped the child become resourceful and responsive.
Well done on your highest numbers! The techniques for which you reported the lowest scores offer a challenge to you. Select one or two of these techniques you want to increase during the next week. Keep a daily record of how you are doing.
Editor's note: to print the chart on one page go to File/Page Setup and set margins to top-.20, bottom/left/right-.25.